For someone who’s lost someone, this Easter.
If someone has sent you this link, they were thinking of you.
Easter is heavy when you’re grieving. The resurrection language, the families everywhere, the empty chair. A lot of well-meaning things to do, none of them quite right.
Here is a small thing, if you would like it.
You buy a small blossom tree. You bring it home. You write the person’s name on a piece of edible rice paper, in soft ink. You hang it on the tree, with thin ribbon. You leave it there for as long as you want — days, weeks, the whole of Lent.
On the day Easter comes round — or the day after, or whenever feels right — you take the tree outside. You plant it. The rice paper goes with it. The birds will eat it within a few days. Their name dissolves into the day.
And then, every spring after, you go back to the tree. It will be taller. It will be in flower. The person isn’t there. The tree is.
That’s all of it. There’s nothing to sign up for, no organisation to join, no group to meet. The tree is yours and the gesture is yours.
If you would find a quieter version of the planting day useful — an invitation only to people you choose, or a tree you tend in your own garden, no map pin, no strangers — that’s how to do it. The wider site is built around community planting, and that’s lovely, but it isn’t for everyone, and it doesn’t have to be for now.
What you might need.
- A small potted blossom tree from a local nursery. Kojo-no-mai or Pink Shell are gentle starting points; both blossom even when small. Find your tree if you'd like a guided suggestion.
- Edible rice paper (a few pounds from any supermarket baking aisle).
- An edible-ink pen, the kind for cake decorating.
- Thin natural ribbon or twine.
That’s the whole list.
If you’d like the planting guide and a quiet reminder closer to Easter, you can leave us your email. We won’t share it. We won’t market to you. We’ll send one note in March, and then nothing else unless you ask.
Whatever you choose, we’re sorry for your loss.
— Easter Trees
If you’re struggling and would like to speak to someone, Cruse Bereavement Support offers free help across the UK. The Samaritans are there 24/7 on 116 123.